Let me start by saying to all you family and friends out there who find out that your loved one has cancer.... your not alone!!! 45 million new cases of cancer pop up every year. That's right, 45 million, which is a lot of people who don't know what to say to their loved one. The most important thing you can do is mention the situation in some way that feels comfortable for you. You can show interest and concern, you can express encouragement, and/or you can offer support. Sometimes the simplest expressions of concern is the most meaningful. And sometimes just listening is the most helpful thing you can do. Remember the old saying “big ears small mouth” When in doubt, respond to the news from your heart.